HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
For 4 years now on this blog, it’s become a tradition at the end of the year for me to revisit the goals I set for myself and set some new ones. My goals for last year were very simple. When I wrote them I was halfway through my second pregnancy and really unsure about what 2015 would be like as I transitioned into having 2 kids. I didn’t want to put too much pressure on myself and I wanted to focus on staying positive amidst a lot of changes that would be happening, physically, mentally and emotionally. Here were my goals and how I did with them.
- Stay active through the rest of my pregnancy. I am very proud of myself for accomplishing this. When I wrote these goals, I knew I wanted to stay active throughout the last half of my pregnancy but I really hoped I would be able to continue running. To my surprise, I ended up being pregnant for two and a half weeks longer than I was with Kevin and went overdue by 4 days – but I managed to run to the end. The day before Kyler was born I ran 3 miles and felt pretty good. The day he was born I was very crampy and having a lot of pressure, so I didn’t run but I walked 3 miles. He was born later that night.
- Run for FUN! I really wanted my focus for running in 2015 to be fun. I didn’t want to put too much pressure on myself to meet any sort of running goals in the last half of my pregnancy, or in the first few months post-partum. I can say that I did accomplish this goal until about August. After that, I started realizing how great I felt physically. I started wanting to do more than just run easy, but I still wanted to make sure I came back smart and safely. I was very careful to only introduce one new stress at a time. First I focused on rebuilding my mileage and extending my long run, two months later I started doing speedwork once a week, then two months later I added in a tempo run. I have also really tried to be more consistent with my strength training since I know it’s so important to staying injury free. I don’t think I stopped running for fun necessarily, I’m still loving my runs, and I’m feeling strong and motivated!
- Eat well. Hmmm. I had to really think about this one. For the most part we eat very well, and we have a nice balance of healthy, homemade food and fun indulgences in moderation. But I am pretty sure I’ve never been hungrier in my life than I was in 2015. Between pregnancy, then postpartum and breastfeeding, while also running and training for a marathon, AND figuring out an appropriate level of thyroid meds for me (I have hypothyroidism but my doctor wanted to keep me on a higher dose during pregnancy and afterwards), I feel like I can’t get enough food! I did try my best to choose healthy, filling foods but this is something I can definitely work on more.
- Don’t be so hard on myself. I have always had a tendency to be a perfectionist who is very hard on myself. This past year I really worked on cutting myself some slack, letting things go and trying to stay positive when things are not perfect or don’t go the way I hope they will. I tried to keep this in perspective within all of my roles as a mother, wife, teacher, runner, etc. I asked my husband how he thought I did with this, and he said I did really well up until I went back to work at the end of August. He said he was really impressed with the way I handled the first few months as a mom of two, and I didn’t really seem stressed or overwhelmed until I went back to work. This is totally true. Once I added work back into my life, I started going back to my old mentality and it was difficult for me to stay positive. I have had to work a lot on saying no, letting things that I can’t control go, and accepting that I’m doing the best I can and that’s okay. It’s about progress not perfection!
My goals for 2016 are a little more specific and ambitious, and I feel more confident about setting these types of goals from what I’ve experienced and learned from this past year. They fall into 4 major categories: family, fitness, fun, and finances.
- Family. This year I wanted to make a goal for each guy in my life, my husband, Kevin, and Kyler.
- Hubby: Go on one date each month, whether it’s out somewhere or a “date” at home where we do something special together. The first year after having a new baby can be tough on a marriage and I definitely feel like my poor husband has been put on the back burner at times. We are celebrating our 5 year wedding anniversary this year so I’m excited to start spending more quality time together.
- Kevin: In 2016 I want to try to do more things with Kevin one-on-one. He is deep into “threenager” mode right now and I know that personal attention from Mommy will help with that. Plus, I miss spending time alone with my first baby. I also want to try to practice being more patient with him, especially when he’s having his dramatic moments and outbursts.
- Kyler: My goal for my sweet, laid-back baby boy is simple. I want to continue breastfeeding him for as long as I can and as long as he needs. He will be a year old at the end of May.
- Fitness. My fitness goal this year is simple yet complex, if that’s even possible. I want to chip away at my marathon time with the hope to qualify for Boston. It really scares me to put that out there in black and white, but that’s the truth! Of course, there are many sub-goals to this that will help me get there, including consistent strength training, speedwork, higher mileage, and most of all BELIEVING that I can. Even if it doesn’t happen this year, I know that it will someday.
- Fun. I had to have some fun goals too! I am turning the big 3-0 in October, and a couple months ago I wrote a post that listed 30 things I would like to do before I turn 30. I’ve been working on them and am slowly checking things off the list. Some of the things on there overlap with my other goals (like going on more dates with my husband), but for the most part they’re for fun 🙂
- Finances. Our financial goal this year is to continue to grow my coaching business, and to keep working towards eventually making it my full-time career. I just officially launched at the end of November/early December and I am off to a really good start. I hope to keep that momentum and expand my client base and the range of what I offer even more in 2016. I don’t see myself being able to leave my current full-time job quite yet, but I am very hopeful that I will sometime in the next few years. Ahhh! Exciting!
Cheers to 2016!
What are your goals for the new year?