This 3 month update is coming a little late. Baby Kevin turned 3 months last Wednesday (December 12th), but life has been so insanely busy that I’m just now finding time to blog. So many things happened this month! When I looked back at my last post partum update at 8 weeks I realized how different things are now, for both him and me. Here are all the details!
Kevin is definitely NOT a tiny little newborn anymore. He spent the first 2 months of his life very fussy and temperamental due to his acid reflux. In the last month he has become super smiley, happy, and extremely vocal. His personality is emerging and he becomes more fun every day!
I think the biggest improvement for Baby K this month is that his acid reflux is GONE. After taking him to the chiropractor a total of 3 times he no longer screams in pain, coughs, gasps, wheezes, etc. It is truly amazing. He spits up very little and only really if he overeats or I eat dairy (he’s still sensitive to it, unfortunately for me!). The best part is that his temperament has completely changed. Now that he is not in pain constantly he’s SO happy. When he is awake he’s smiling and babbling constantly.
During the last month he also started reacting to us, smiling when he sees us or when we put a toy in front of him. The best part of my whole day is first thing in the morning. When he first wakes up and sees us he gives us the biggest smile, and then kicks his legs and talks to us. I love it so much. He also smiles at us when we come home from work. It makes my heart so happy!
He is extremely active and always moving his little legs and arms. He rolled over from front to back for the first time at 9 weeks and 2 days. Baby boy is strong! He can hold his head up like a champ and actually likes tummy time now.
He has also become interested in toys. He interacts with them now and will try to bat at them, hold them, or eat them!
He has been drooling a TON and has his hands in his mouth constantly. I think this is the very early stages of teething. Sometimes he sticks his fingers so far in his mouth that he gags himself and spits up drool. He soaks through his shirts too! I know that these signs can last for months and months, so I’m not expecting any teeth to pop through soon. We’ll see though!
He has been doing very well with our babysitter. She watches him in our home, which we LOVE. She has pretty much let him do his own thing and he’s fallen into his own routine. I wouldn’t call it a schedule because it does vary, but he always takes a cat nap in the morning right after we leave, followed by a bottle and then a long morning nap (2-3 hours). He wakes up, eats, plays, and then goes down for a long afternoon nap (1.5-2 hours). Then he eats again and plays, and by this time we are home from work. These longer naps during the day have helped him sleep better at night too. In month 3 he was waking up once a night to eat, maybe twice a night every once in a while. We put him down between 8 and 9 p.m. and he slept in 3-5 hour stretches. He’s still in the co-sleeper in our room, and I don’t know when we are going to move him out. I like having him close after not seeing him all day, plus it’s convenient for feeding him. However, I think in the new year we’re going to begin the transition to the crib 😦 I will miss him.
I saved the part that makes me sad for last. At baby’s 2 month appointment he weighed 9 pounds 9 ounces and was 23 inches long. This put him in the 50th percentile for height and the 12th for weight. He was still on his curve but our pediatrician wanted there to be less of a gap between height and weight. She told me to work on getting him to gain more weight and was pushing me to supplement. She gave me until the 3 month mark to bring his weight up. Well, then I went back to work and my supply dropped due to pumping and the stress of work (more about my breastfeeding issues here). I knew he was gaining (he’s now in 0-3 month clothes and size 1 diapers) but I didn’t know if it was enough.
We just had his 3 month appointment on Thursday with a new pediatrician. I wanted to switch because I didn’t like the way our old pediatrician made me feel. She was pushy and condescending and made me feel like I was a bad mother. Our new pediatrician is awesome. Very gentle, understanding, and open-minded. However, at the appointment Kevin weighed in at 10 pounds 6 ounces and 24.5 inches long. That put him in the 75th percentile for height (!!!) and only the 3rd-5th for weight. She said she doesn’t believe height and weight need to necessarily match up (my old ped. was adamant about this), but this gap was a little too large for her and he was beginning to fall off his curve. She told me she wanted me to start giving him an ounce of formula after each feeding to give him a little boost. She wants me to do it for a month to see if it helps, then we will think about starting some solids at 4 months. If he’s gaining, there’s a possibility I could switch back to breast milk with the solids giving him the extra boost he needs instead of formula. So I’m holding out hope that it’s temporary!
I cried about this a lot, and I am still upset every time I give him his 1 oz. bottle of formula. But I have been doing everything I can to increase my supply and it’s not enough. So as much as it kills me to have to do it, it’s what I need to do for him to get him to a healthier weight. I know that in the grand scheme of things it’s not that much, and that breastfeeding doesn’t have to be ‘all or nothing.’ I’m not going to stop doing everything I can to increase my supply and he’ll still be getting a lot of nutrients and immunities from me. It’s just hard to accept that I couldn’t provide what he needs. An added issue is that he’s sensitive to dairy so we are using the more expensive formula. I did not anticipate having to pay for this in addition to day care. But luckily, he isn’t using a ton so it’s not like we’ll go through it that quickly. So that’s where we are with his weight and feeding issues. I’m trying hard not to feel like a failure, but it has been very challenging for me.
I lost another 2 pounds this month, bringing me to 132. I’m 2 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight now, but my body is pretty different. I have a little more roundness to my belly that I did before and my hips aren’t getting any smaller. I haven’t been eating well since we’ve been so busy and I haven’t really been running because of my knee injury, so I’m not sure how I lost another 2 pounds this month. I think it’s because I’ve been trying to increase my supply which leads to more calories burned. I can tell because I’ve been extra hungry. I’ve definitely killed a bag or two of tortilla chips this month, not going to lie.
I am also surprised that I lost some more weight because my doctor adjusted my thyroid medicine again, bringing it down some. He increased it during pregnancy so I knew this would happen, and I figured my weight loss would slow down as a result. But it’s been the opposite. I feel like my thyroid and metabolism are working harder now.
Other interesting body changes include my hair falling out A LOT. When I brush it and when I get out of the shower it comes out in clumps. Sadness 😦 Also, I have noticed myself breaking out more, like I used to before pregnancy. While I was pregnant (after the first trimester) my face was clearer than it’s ever been. But now it’s back, probably due to hormonal issues. Finally, the fenugreek I’ve been taking to increase my milk supply has me smelling like maple syrup. Yes, seriously. It’s so strange, but it is apparently a normal side effect. So in summary I am losing my hair, have acne, and smell like pancakes. Good thing my husband loves me so much!
I haven’t been running due to my knee injury, but after two full weeks of rest I plan to start again tomorrow. I’m excited and hoping my knee is back to normal! I am missing it so much!
Oh boy, this was a very, very tough month for me mentally and emotionally. I had a lot of things to work through- going back to work and leaving baby with our sitter, stress at work which led to low supply, baby weight gain issues and feeling like a failure because I couldn’t keep up with his needs. I spent a lot of time crying over the last month. I think I can sum up month 3 with that one word: tears. I have been trying my best to make the most of the time we have together on weekends, before and after work.
My focus for month 4 is acceptance. I have to accept that I need to work even though I’d rather stay home. I have to accept that being a teacher is NOT a 9-5 job, and I have to take work home every single night even though all I want to do is snuggle with my baby. I have to accept that my milk supply isn’t enough to meet baby’s needs anymore, even though I’ve tried everything to increase it. It has been really hard. There are a lot of things I can’t control. One of my mommy friends told me that sometimes when it comes to your kids things are going to be out of your control, so maybe this is my first lesson in realizing that.
With the holidays coming up, it’s been really special creating new memories and starting traditions as a family. It has made me feel so much better knowing that I am going to have a long winter break to spend with him. I’m also looking forward to seeing our families. I hope it gives me the boost I have been needing!
WOW this was a long update! So much has happened in only a month. I am sure in another month there will be a lot more to share!
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