Monthly Archives: July 2012

The Things People Say, Part 2

Back in April I wrote a post about the weird things that people have said to me during my pregnancy. At the time I was only 15 weeks but had already experienced a lot of interesting comments, questions, advice (mostly unsolicited), and concerns. I am now almost 32 weeks pregnant and have gotten very used to it as the things people say get stranger and stranger. I like to think that I have just grown a thicker skin 🙂

31 weeks 5 days

Here are some of the things people have said to me. Like before, many of these questions and comments were said to me by more than one person. Sit back and enjoy the entertainment!

  1. “So really, when do you have to stop running?” This is the number one question I get! Someone in the gym actually came up to me and told me she thought I shouldn’t be running while pregnant. Some people don’t seem to understand that I don’t necessarily have to stop running at a certain point in my pregnancy. I tell them that my doctor says it’s okay to continue as long as it feels good to do so, and that I could potentially run up to my due date. That leads to a lot of confused looks and shocked stares.
  2. “You need to sit down!” or “Make sure you don’t lift anything” (we’re about to move) or “You shouldn’t be doing a thing at home right now” or “Make sure you stay inside since it’s hot.” Pregnancy does not = fragility. I do not have a disability. I am not sick. I am young, healthy, active, and have a low-risk pregnancy. In fact, I am really not doing much less than I did before I was pregnant. Don’t get me wrong – I am really tired most of the time and I do take it easy when I feel I need to, or when it’s not safe (like lifting heavy moving boxes- I’m not stupid!). I know that people are just concerned for my well-being when they say these things, but one of the reasons I love my pregnant running is because I think it shows others that pregnant women can still do many amazing things. We don’t need to be treated like porcelain dolls.
  3. Doesn’t your belly bounce while you run? This is another popular question, I guess out of pure curiosity! For the record, I don’t feel my belly “bounce” while running. It’s pretty firm in there. However, I do like to wear my Gabrialla maternity belt to support my back and abdominal muscles and that does make me feel more secure.
  4. “Your body will never be the same after this.” Someone said that to me on Facebook after I posted a picture of myself with my growing belly. Nice! I am not naive, I know that pregnancy and childbirth will change everything about my life, including the body I once had, and that is FINE. The fact that my body grew and carried a child is amazing and will only make me stronger. So what if it looks different than it did before? Of course I want to lose the baby weight eventually, but what is more important to me is regaining my fitness level and being able to run like I used to. I have full confidence that I will be able to do that!
  5. You won’t have time for anything anymore – sleeping, eating, running, cleaning, having a social life, etc.” Again, I know that having a baby changes everything, but that doesn’t mean that we will never sleep, eat, run, clean, or see our friends EVER again! I have known enough friends and family with new babies to know that yes, in the beginning it is hard to do much while caring for a newborn. But it will pass. It’s not forever. There are way too many Debbie Downers out there! My husband and I are an amazing team and I know that we will make it work together. I’m choosing to be optimistic about this one!
  6. “Your belly is so small!” People have told me since the beginning that I look small for how far along I am. I don’t really mind this comment because I know that my belly continues to measure perfectly each time that it is measured by my doctors. What does bother me though was one particular comment where someone said I am small because I don’t get enough protein as a vegetarian. THAT upset me and is totally not true. Proof!
  7. “Your belly is so big!” and “You look like you are due any day!” On the flip side, I also get comments that my belly is looking big! I really don’t understand people’s perceptions of what pregnancy looks like. The comment about looking like I’m due any day was from our realtor when I was only 6 months pregnant. When I told her that I was actually not due for 3 more months she looked shocked and said, “WOW!” LOL. I expect these comments later in pregnancy but I didn’t think I would get them so soon!
  8. “How much weight have you gained?” Along with the comments about my belly size, people are very curious about my weight gain. At this point I have gained about 20 pounds which is right on track. I don’t know why people find this so interesting.
  9. “It’s DEFINITELY a boy/girl!” People have very strong opinions  about whether they think our baby is a boy or a girl. It’s so funny to listen to what they predict and why. Currently it’s pretty evenly split between boy and girl. I guess we will see in about 2 months!
  10. “You are only off for 6 weeks? Wow that’s going to be really hard for you and your baby.” I know this, and I don’t want to think about it right now. It is not my choice to only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Unfortunately, that’s the policy in my school system. I could take more, but it would be unpaid and we just can’t do that – especially since we are in the process of buying a house. So staying at home longer is not an option for me, stop making me feel bad about it! Thanks.
  11. “You’re so lucky!” This is one that actually does bother me, even though I know the people who say it mean well. It usually comes after they compliment me on how I “look good”, haven’t gained a ton of weight, etc. Before I got pregnant, I worked very hard to get in the best shape of my life and was training for an ultra and two marathons. I don’t want this to come off the wrong way because I am not a vain person at all and I do know that I am lucky that my body has responded well to continuing to run while pregnant. However, it’s not “luck” that is keeping me healthy and fit during this pregnancy. It takes work and constant effort. There are days when it is really tough to make the right food choices and go out for a walk or a run. But I do it anyway because it’s not about me, it’s about my baby. I make the conscious decisions that I do to keep myself and my baby healthy. It’s not luck. I really think that these decisions are what is keeping my weight gain on track and keeping my pregnancy healthy and low-risk so far. I just don’t like my hard work to be attributed to being lucky. However, I do know people who made the same efforts and had complications come up, and that could happen to me since I still have 2 months left- who knows! But if it does, at least I will know that I worked hard to do everything I could to keep myself and my baby healthy. In the meantime I am going to keep doing what I’m doing and remain positive about the rest of my pregnancy, labor, and delivery!
  12. “You’re so cute!” and “You’re glowing!” I like this one 🙂 It makes me feel good when I don’t feel my best sometimes!

I think it is very interesting to listen to what people have to say to me about pregnancy and all of their thoughts and opinions. I know that people really do mean well and many of these comments are meant to be compliments. I just wanted a record of some of them so that I can look back and remember the strange things that were said to me while I was pregnant. With about two months left in this pregnancy, I’m not sure if there will be a Part 3 to this series or not. I expect people to start saying things like, “Did you have that baby yet?” and “You look like you’re ready to pop” as I get farther and farther along, but we’ll see what else comes up!

Whether you have been pregnant or not, what types of weird comments and questions have you heard from people? 

RW Summer Running Streak Continued: Week 9

I can’t believe I just finished the 9th week of my extended Summer Running Streak! This was a special week because I spent half of it in Virginia and then I went home to Pennsylvania from Wednesday to Sunday. I loved the change of scenery and having easy access to my Dad’s treadmill when it was too hot outside.

Walking at the park in Pennsylvania

Last week I wrote about how I had a tough week and how running in general is feeling more difficult. This week I changed up some things to see how my body would respond. First, I started to run every other day and walked on the days in between. Before I would run whenever I felt like it, or when it worked with my schedule. Sometimes that was 2 or 3 days in a row. This was not doing my pregnant body any favors, and it made some of my runs feel harder than they should have because my body was tired. I think alternating my running and walking days was very beneficial. I was able to run farther and feel more comfortable my runs, and the longer walks in between felt good on my body.

The second thing that I tried to start changing was my attitude. Last week was hard emotionally because in a way I was still in my pre-pregnancy mindset, and my body was definitely not agreeing with that. This week I feel more accepting in general that things are changing for me. I am trying to change my attitude towards walking in general, especially during a run, and embrace it rather than fight it. I know in my heart that walking is okay but for so long I worked to eliminate needing to stop and walk while I trained to get faster, so it’s a tough switch to make now. I’m also trying to accept that my weekly mileage is dropping, especially now that I’m running every other day. It’s a work in progress but I’m getting there! Knowing that it is only temporary and that every step I take, whether it is running or walking, is good for my baby and myself helps a lot.

Here’s how week 9 went for me:

  • Monday: 2 mile walk
  • Tuesday: 3 mile run
  • Wednesday: 2 mile walk
  • Thursday: 5 mile run
  • Friday: 3 mile walk
  • Saturday: 4 mile run
  • Sunday: 1 mile walk
  • Total miles ran/walked: 20 miles

What I see when I look down while on the treadmill!

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Our Pennsylvania Baby Shower

Yesterday we were thrown a baby shower by my family and friends in my Pennsylvania hometown! It was at my Dad’s house and included many very special women (and men!) that I grew up with. These people accepted Kevin with open arms a few years ago and yesterday they helped us welcome our new baby. It was an amazing day that I will never forget! Here are some pictures from our shower.

Notes to Baby K

Everyone did a great job of keeping the shower gender neutral, since we don’t know the baby’s sex. People were giving us their guesses all day long. It’s fun to hear what people think we will have and why!

We played the game where people have to guess how big I am around the belly by ripping off streamers. Then everyone measured me to see how they did. Kevin was one of a few people that guessed perfectly!

             

After the food and the game, it was time for Kevin and I to open up all the amazing gifts. We were so fortunate to receive many things that we need for Baby K. Here are just a few pictures out of many!

Baby bath time supplies!

The diaper bag that Kevin wanted 🙂

My friend Sandy bought us a baby photography session!

Our Pack & Play

My sister knitted this amazing owl as well as hats and booties!!!

Video camera from my dad. We are SO excited about this!!!

A wishing basket full of small items like books, toys, and health/hygiene things. Everyone brought something to contribute!

After opening gifts we spent the rest of the afternoon relaxing, reminiscing, laughing, eating more delicious food, and spending time with the people we don’t get to see as often as we want to.

My friend Crystal was one of the first people I met at Penn State – 8 years ago!

These ladies were by my side as bridesmaids in my wedding. I love them!

Everyone’s love and generosity blew me away. All of these people also threw me a bridal shower this time last year and attended our wedding in November. We feel SO lucky and blessed to have such amazing friends and family. Baby K is already loved by so many people. It brings tears to my eyes to think about it!

Kevin’s Insanity Challenge: 2 Week Update

About two weeks ago Kevin began a new Insanity challenge.

Since then he has followed the workout calendar perfectly except for one day when he had a weird stomach bug and couldn’t do it. It was only the Cardio Recovery workout though, so it wasn’t a huge deal that he missed it. When Kevin started the program I noticed a change in his mood and attitude almost right away. I could tell he was happy to be back to working out consistently. He was super motivated and got up every morning to do the workouts, even though he is not normally a morning exerciser and I usually have to drag him out of bed to go run. He told me that after only two weeks he was already feeling stronger and more confident, and he had more energy.

Since he hit the two week mark this past Tuesday it was time to do another Fit Test, and we took measurements and pictures to see what progress has been made so far. He hadn’t weighed himself at all since Day 1 of starting Insanity, so he was a bit surprised when he stepped on the scale on Tuesday and weighed slightly more than his starting weight. We have no idea why this might be because he has been eating pretty well. Our only guess is that he had a few too many beers over the weekend and the night before. It has been only two weeks though, so he has plenty of time left to lose those pounds!

He was a little bit discouraged after seeing these numbers, but we knew the real proof would be in the Fit Test and how much he has improved there. We were right! There has definitely been progress made!

Look at those numbers! He killed it after only two weeks! So even though his progress didn’t show on the scale, it showed here. Personally, I think that is more important anyway. Whatever weird thing happened with his weight this week should be fixed by the next Fit Test. It’s not a big deal! We all know that scales lie sometimes 🙂

Here is his progress in pictures, comparing two weeks ago to now.

     

     

     

     

     

Do you see any changes besides his haircut? 🙂 I think we will be able to see more progress at the next update once he is finished with month 1, but he is off to a good start! Here are Kevin’s final thoughts about the first two weeks of Insanity.

“Well, Insanity reminded me that it is in fact, INSANE. It didn’t take long for me to remember how tough it was two years ago. It’s a great workout plan and I like the fact that it has everything already planned out for me. Knowing that I’m two weeks down already means i’m down to 7 to go. Time is flying by.”

Basketball Drills

Power Jacks

Power Knees

I’m so proud of you Kevin! Keep up the awesome, hard, INSANE work!

Baby K: 31 Weeks

I say this every week, but I can’t believe how fast time is moving. We now have only single digit weeks left, and tomorrow will be exactly 2 months until my due date! I know that baby most likely won’t arrive on that day, but it’s still so exciting knowing that we are getting closer and closer to meeting him or her!

What’s Happening With Baby?

This week the baby is as big as 4 navel oranges (weird!).

According to BabyCenter, the baby weighs about 3.3  pounds and measures 16 inches long. Baby is able to turn it’s head and is very active in there (trust me, I know this!).  Apparently he or she is about to enter a growth spurt, so I need to prepare myself for that! Maybe that’s why I’ve been so tired and not feeling my best lately? The Bump also says that by now the baby has developed all 5 of its senses, and major brain and nerve development begins now as well.

How I’m Feeling

My nausea has subsided a bit this week which is GREAT! I do have heartburn pretty regularly and feel like my stomach is in my throat. I get out of breath more easily now, probably because baby is crowding out my lungs. But other than that I feel fine. I’m definitely more emotional and find myself getting stressed out and upset over little things. I feel like all of these things are normal third trimester symptoms and it’s really not that bad. I do enjoy being pregnant and I think I will miss it when it’s over.

How I’m Changing

As far as physical changes go, nothing really significant except the belly is growing obviously! I had an appointment with another amazing delivering midwife at my practice last Friday. I hadn’t met her yet and I really like her. She is another one who is very supportive of our ‘birth wishes’ which is great. She measured my belly and I was measuring perfectly for how far along I am. She also felt the baby and determined that he or she is head down (yeah!!!) so now it just needs to stay that way. She also told me that by feeling the body parts through my belly, it doesn’t feel like the baby will be over 9 pounds at birth like it was originally predicted at my 20 week ultrasound. She said it feels like a 7-8 pound baby. Of course she can’t be sure, but it was good to hear!

     

I do think I changed a lot mentally this week. We had a busy week full of appointments and baby classes that left me feeling more confident and ready, and like a real MOM. That is a big change in my mindset. The first class we took was a breastfeeding class on Thursday night. It was 3 hours long and went over all the basics, answered a lot of questions, and we even got to practice positions with a fake baby. Then we took a baby care basics class + infant CPR on Saturday. I really liked that class because it went over a lot of things that I was unsure about like newborn care, bathing, illnesses, swaddling and calming your baby, safety, and more. I don’t have a lot of experience with babies yet so I learned a lot. It also was a good CPR refresher. I hadn’t taken a course in a long time and the regulations changed last year. These classes (along with our regular Bradley class on Tuesdays) made me feel a lot more confident about being a mommy 🙂

Baby in breastfeeding class

Baby in baby care/CPR class

What I’m Eating / Not Eating

More of the same from last week. Still eating smaller meals because my belly can’t handle much. I really want eggs, fruit, and mainly easy meals that don’t require much effort. I have noticed that after dinner sometimes I will feel the baby get hiccups. It’s always around 7 or 8 p.m. and I know they are hiccups because they are consistent little movements every second or so. It’s so cool!

How I’m Staying Active

I didn’t have a great running week, as I wrote about in my Week 8 Run Streak Recap. I am struggling to accept that it feels more difficult now and I’m not able to run as much anymore because running is such a big part of who I am and it’s important to me. Since running has felt tough lately, I have decided to start running every other day and walk on the days in between. I know this is what is best for my body, but I’m a little nervous for my sanity. On days that I don’t run (even if I walk) I am way more emotional and get upset easily. I did manage a “long” run of 5 miles on Sunday, and I felt good until the last mile when I struggled. I think I need to sign up for some post-baby races to make me feel better and have something to work towards after the baby comes. I’m thinking a spring half or maybe a full if it’s late in the season (like May or June). We’ll see!

  • Run: 14 miles
  • Walk: 5 miles
  • Strength-Training: 1 Body Pump class

     

Week 31 Summary:

  • Weight gained this week: +0.8 pounds
  • Total weight gained: +19.6 pounds
  • # of days until next doctor’s appointment: 7
  • # of days until our first baby shower: 3! I’m home in Pennsylvania for it now and I can’t wait!
  • Best part of the week: Listening to baby’s heartbeat with my friend’s home doppler. Then she listened to her baby’s heartbeat! It was so fun. Our babies will be about 12 weeks apart 🙂 Can you guess who is farther along? LOL.

For more pregnancy posts, visit the Baby K page!

RW Summer Running Streak Continued: Week 8

Well, Week 8 of my extended running streak has come to an end. And since I try to always be honest on my blog, it wasn’t the best week ever. This might sound stupid because I’ve been pregnant for over 7 months now, but I’m realizing that this is the first time since I started running back in college that I’m not making gains, and actually going backwards in my ability. It started to really hit me that I won’t be able to run like I used to for at least another 5 months or so. Baby will be here in about 2 months, and then I know it’s going to take a decent amount of time to build my running back up again.

I was a little sad about this on Sunday after getting back from a difficult “long run” of 5 miles, but Kevin helped me put things into perspective by reminding me that I’m almost 31 weeks pregnant and what I’m still able to do is great. It’s just tough when I think about what I did before and how much less I’m doing now. Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy and excited to be pregnant and become a mommy, but running has been a huge part of my life and my identity for so long that it’s hard to deal with seeing myself slow down so much and how hard running feels these days. It’s not painful (or else I wouldn’t still be running) but sometimes it just feels like it’s 2004 again and I’m learning how to run for the first time. I know I will get back to where I was before, and hopefully even better than that! But for the time being I need to accept change and the fact that my priorities are changing. It’s a tough pill to swallow for this stubborn first time mama!

My running mileage during pregnancy so far (we got pregnant on Jan. 6th). Definitely something to be proud of!!!

Anyway, that was a lot. So here’s how the week went for me:

  • Monday: 3 mile run
  • Tuesday: 3 mile run
  • Wednesday: 1 mile walk
  • Thursday: 3 mile run
  • Friday: 1 mile walk
  • Saturday: 3 mile run
  • Sunday: 5 mile run
  • Total miles ran/walked: 19 miles

At the gym after Body Pump and 3 miles on the treadmill

Here’s to hoping that this next week is a little better than the last!!!

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Bad Race Photos

A few weeks ago on the 4th of July, Kevin and I ran the Let Freedom Run 5K. A couple of days later he emailed me while he was at work with a link to look at the pictures that had been posted from the race. I was eating lunch at the time and literally spit out my food when I saw his pictures.

This was right before the finish and he was pushing it hard at the end (obviously). It got me thinking about race photos in general and how terrible they can be. Kevin usually looks great in his race pictures and I’m always jealous. I somehow usually manage to look like I’m dying at unflattering angles. I decided it would be a great idea to write a post all about bad race photos and feature some of ours from the last few years.

The next two pictures are from my second marathon that I ran in May 2009- The New Jersey Marathon. The recap is linked, but in a nutshell it rained for the entire 4 hours and 15 minutes that I was running, I traveled to the race all alone, I was freezing, chafing, and miserable.

NJ Marathon – Running ALL alone!

The next two photos are from the Warrior Dash that I did in October 2010. Not flattering. Please notice the woman pushing me over the log in the second picture. Hahaha.

Next up- The New York City Marathon in November 2010. I actually felt great during this entire race, but I look like death here for some reason. This was around mile 24 when Kevin jumped in to run with me at the end.

Oh yes, the Country Music Marathon in April 2011, also known as my worst marathon ever. It was Kevin’s first and we were supposed to run together, but the heat and hills got to me and I died around mile 18. I barely made it to the finish and ran my worst time ever. You can see I was starting to struggle here. This is right before I made Kevin go ahead without me.

I have to throw one in of Kevin because he usually looks so good and smiley. This is from the Rock & Roll USA Half Marathon this past March. I’m not sure if he is running or not here. I think this might have been right after he crossed the finish line. But he PRed at this race (ran a 1:43!) and was exhausted. He was also dazed and confused apparently.

Here is one from our recent trip when we ran the Rock & Roll Seattle Half Marathon. Kevin looks good but I look like I’m doing the chicken dance or something.

I saved the worst for last. These are from my most recent marathon, The Air Force Marathon, that we ran in September 2011. We ran a 4:00:04 here which was a huge PR for me. I felt amazing the entire race until mile 26. I totally fell apart in the last .2 miles… and by fell apart I mean that my body just stopped working. Kevin literally had to drag me by my arm while I tried not to puke/pass out. It actually was not a funny situation at all and I had to go to the medical tent for a little while, but the pictures are just so bad that I had to share.

Right before the finish line

After finishing and before going to the medical tent

These pictures are just a sample. I know there have been many more, but I chose not to save them or purchase them because they were too bad. Now I wish I had!!!

Alright, I really want to see more bad race photos! Write a post of your own featuring your best (worst) pictures 🙂