Back in April I wrote a post about the weird things that people have said to me during my pregnancy. At the time I was only 15 weeks but had already experienced a lot of interesting comments, questions, advice (mostly unsolicited), and concerns. I am now almost 32 weeks pregnant and have gotten very used to it as the things people say get stranger and stranger. I like to think that I have just grown a thicker skin 🙂
Here are some of the things people have said to me. Like before, many of these questions and comments were said to me by more than one person. Sit back and enjoy the entertainment!
- “So really, when do you have to stop running?” This is the number one question I get! Someone in the gym actually came up to me and told me she thought I shouldn’t be running while pregnant. Some people don’t seem to understand that I don’t necessarily have to stop running at a certain point in my pregnancy. I tell them that my doctor says it’s okay to continue as long as it feels good to do so, and that I could potentially run up to my due date. That leads to a lot of confused looks and shocked stares.
- “You need to sit down!” or “Make sure you don’t lift anything” (we’re about to move) or “You shouldn’t be doing a thing at home right now” or “Make sure you stay inside since it’s hot.” Pregnancy does not = fragility. I do not have a disability. I am not sick. I am young, healthy, active, and have a low-risk pregnancy. In fact, I am really not doing much less than I did before I was pregnant. Don’t get me wrong – I am really tired most of the time and I do take it easy when I feel I need to, or when it’s not safe (like lifting heavy moving boxes- I’m not stupid!). I know that people are just concerned for my well-being when they say these things, but one of the reasons I love my pregnant running is because I think it shows others that pregnant women can still do many amazing things. We don’t need to be treated like porcelain dolls.
- Doesn’t your belly bounce while you run? This is another popular question, I guess out of pure curiosity! For the record, I don’t feel my belly “bounce” while running. It’s pretty firm in there. However, I do like to wear my Gabrialla maternity belt to support my back and abdominal muscles and that does make me feel more secure.
- “Your body will never be the same after this.” Someone said that to me on Facebook after I posted a picture of myself with my growing belly. Nice! I am not naive, I know that pregnancy and childbirth will change everything about my life, including the body I once had, and that is FINE. The fact that my body grew and carried a child is amazing and will only make me stronger. So what if it looks different than it did before? Of course I want to lose the baby weight eventually, but what is more important to me is regaining my fitness level and being able to run like I used to. I have full confidence that I will be able to do that!
- You won’t have time for anything anymore – sleeping, eating, running, cleaning, having a social life, etc.” Again, I know that having a baby changes everything, but that doesn’t mean that we will never sleep, eat, run, clean, or see our friends EVER again! I have known enough friends and family with new babies to know that yes, in the beginning it is hard to do much while caring for a newborn. But it will pass. It’s not forever. There are way too many Debbie Downers out there! My husband and I are an amazing team and I know that we will make it work together. I’m choosing to be optimistic about this one!
- “Your belly is so small!” People have told me since the beginning that I look small for how far along I am. I don’t really mind this comment because I know that my belly continues to measure perfectly each time that it is measured by my doctors. What does bother me though was one particular comment where someone said I am small because I don’t get enough protein as a vegetarian. THAT upset me and is totally not true. Proof!
- “Your belly is so big!” and “You look like you are due any day!” On the flip side, I also get comments that my belly is looking big! I really don’t understand people’s perceptions of what pregnancy looks like. The comment about looking like I’m due any day was from our realtor when I was only 6 months pregnant. When I told her that I was actually not due for 3 more months she looked shocked and said, “WOW!” LOL. I expect these comments later in pregnancy but I didn’t think I would get them so soon!
- “How much weight have you gained?” Along with the comments about my belly size, people are very curious about my weight gain. At this point I have gained about 20 pounds which is right on track. I don’t know why people find this so interesting.
- “It’s DEFINITELY a boy/girl!” People have very strong opinions about whether they think our baby is a boy or a girl. It’s so funny to listen to what they predict and why. Currently it’s pretty evenly split between boy and girl. I guess we will see in about 2 months!
- “You are only off for 6 weeks? Wow that’s going to be really hard for you and your baby.” I know this, and I don’t want to think about it right now. It is not my choice to only have 6 weeks of maternity leave. Unfortunately, that’s the policy in my school system. I could take more, but it would be unpaid and we just can’t do that – especially since we are in the process of buying a house. So staying at home longer is not an option for me, stop making me feel bad about it! Thanks.
- “You’re so lucky!” This is one that actually does bother me, even though I know the people who say it mean well. It usually comes after they compliment me on how I “look good”, haven’t gained a ton of weight, etc. Before I got pregnant, I worked very hard to get in the best shape of my life and was training for an ultra and two marathons. I don’t want this to come off the wrong way because I am not a vain person at all and I do know that I am lucky that my body has responded well to continuing to run while pregnant. However, it’s not “luck” that is keeping me healthy and fit during this pregnancy. It takes work and constant effort. There are days when it is really tough to make the right food choices and go out for a walk or a run. But I do it anyway because it’s not about me, it’s about my baby. I make the conscious decisions that I do to keep myself and my baby healthy. It’s not luck. I really think that these decisions are what is keeping my weight gain on track and keeping my pregnancy healthy and low-risk so far. I just don’t like my hard work to be attributed to being lucky. However, I do know people who made the same efforts and had complications come up, and that could happen to me since I still have 2 months left- who knows! But if it does, at least I will know that I worked hard to do everything I could to keep myself and my baby healthy. In the meantime I am going to keep doing what I’m doing and remain positive about the rest of my pregnancy, labor, and delivery!
- “You’re so cute!” and “You’re glowing!” I like this one 🙂 It makes me feel good when I don’t feel my best sometimes!
I think it is very interesting to listen to what people have to say to me about pregnancy and all of their thoughts and opinions. I know that people really do mean well and many of these comments are meant to be compliments. I just wanted a record of some of them so that I can look back and remember the strange things that were said to me while I was pregnant. With about two months left in this pregnancy, I’m not sure if there will be a Part 3 to this series or not. I expect people to start saying things like, “Did you have that baby yet?” and “You look like you’re ready to pop” as I get farther and farther along, but we’ll see what else comes up!
Whether you have been pregnant or not, what types of weird comments and questions have you heard from people?